Are you looking for Marriage Counseling in Essex County, NJ?

Dr. Mark and Dr. Tamara have collectively worked and helped thousands of couples over professional careers spanning 25+ years.  These couples have begun therapy with emotional states that varied on spectrums from superficial politeness at one end, to bitter antagonism on the other end; overly enmeshed to overly detached; struggling over issues involving lack of physical intimacy to conflict over money, raising children, betrayal and infidelity, dealing with in-laws and step children; violent with each other verbally, and sometimes physically; struggling with dependency to addictions to chemicals (alcohol, drugs) and/or behaviors (e.g., gambling, porn, shop-lifting, etc.) No matter the outward presentation of detachment, rage, tearfulness or cold passivity, all of these individuals shared underlying deep wounds inflicted by their loved ones. They felt unheard, unloved, misunderstood and very lonely within the relationship.

Dr. Tamara and Dr. Mark provide a safe, nurturing environment where each person is heard, and each partner comes to really understand the pain underlying the negative patterns that have been established within the relationship. Communication skills are taught, helping the relationship improve.  Underlying unresolved issues are often the source of the present problems; these are uncovered, processed and healed.

If your marriage has any of the foundational cracks listed above, you owe it to yourselves and your family to invest in creating a firm, strong foundation for yourself, your partner and your family by calling and making an appointment to start the healing process.

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According to Recent Research, the following signs are proven symptoms of relationship deterioration that are associated with a greatly increased probability of breakup or divorce:

1. Feeling Distant

2. Increase in Arguing or Negativity

3. Lack of Affection

4. Increase in Anger, Hostility and/or Sarcasm

5. Avoidance of Each Other; Stonewalling

6. Trust Issues (affairs; hiding cell phone/texting; suspicious absences)

If You're Having One or More of the Signs Listed Above, Be Sure to Take Some Action Soon to Improve Your Situation.

What Do Couples Normally Argue About?

• Physical intimacy (Too little . . . too much. . . how much is the right amount?) 

• Jealousy and infidelity (How can I trust that my partner is being faithful?) 

• Parenting styles (One parent is too easy, the other parent is too tough . . . who’s correct?)

• Finances (One partner is a scrooge, the other is a spender. How do you create a financial plan that honors the need to save with the need to enjoy life?)

• In-laws (Setting boundaries with in-laws and shifting primary allegiance from the family of origin to each other is the task of early marriages and relationships. Hence, in-laws issues tend to be more prevalent in first marriages).

• Step-children (Blending families together, balancing the needs of husbands and wives along with the needs of the children, is the difficult task to master in subsequent marriages).

Our Marriage Counseling helps by providing:

• A safe environment for all points of view to be heard, validated and considered

• Communication skill building

• Relationship skill building

• Effective boundary setting and respect

• Psycho-education about appropriate family roles and expectations

• Wisdom and coaching from a neutral, professionally trained and highly experienced third party